A wife shares her story about planning to leave her husband

[Professor]

This is the full transcript of a candid conversation held in our public chatroom (you can find the chatroom at the bottom of this page). We get visitors from all walks of life, asking us questions and sharing their stories. This one involves a wife who is planning on leaving her husband because she's no longer attracted to him. Her reasons are pretty enlightening and serve to highlight the importance of the things we teach men here.

[Professor]

Caitlin Flanagan gives women some relationship advice:

[DallasDad]

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I have not read Ms. Flanagan's book, but if I understand her thesis, it is that men are responsible for their families and that their wives should support them the best that they can. What a shocking and controversial thing to say. Like some of the critics on this site, Colbert asks her if this means that husbands should be able to have their wives lobotomized.

It should not even need to be said that men support legal parity and human rights for all people. The editors of this site correctly point out that the only reason "legal parity" is even a concept, much less implemented in our society, is because of the efforts of men to make it happen and keep it that way.

In other words, Ms. Flanagan's thesis is obviously and indisputably correct, and people who attack her message are really attacking the fundamentals of our free and egalitarian society.

[Swanster]

It's a shame that he can't refrain from acting like an attention deficient clown long enough to allow her to get into any depth about her book or ideas. I really would have liked to listen to her.

[Ace]

This sounds a lot like my story only I'm the dude. I felt like it was my ex talking. I must admit, I am quite embarrassed about coming on this site as often as I do. The ebook was so riveting, I constantly come on these forums to gain more information because i felt like the book was just a scratch of the surface. Last week I didnt get much work done at my job because i was so wrapped up in the book.

I used to blame my son's mother for her taking him and leaving me in the dust. There is nothing more humiliating than sleeping in the room you grew up in after living on your own with a woman for many years. I always talked bad about her every time an opportunity presented itself. But I realize that I failed to govern the relationship. I failed to exercise my authority as as a man and I'm man enough to admit that. Now I'm not saying the bitch ain't crazy, but I shoudlve got a hold on it before it got out of hand. She was my first, so I always had this attitude like; " dont mess this up Ace. you finally got someone to have sex with you." but because of my cautionary behavior I didnt act like a man and ultimately messed it up anyway.

I started reading the Bible, and I got really into it, and if I let her tell the story that is why she left. But I know that was just her finally having an excuse to leave so she wouldn't look bad. A lot of what is in your book is biblical. That is what draws me to it. I use the Bible as the standard in my life, and anything I learn that can be filtered by the Bible is true. As i read the book I found myself saying; "oh that's that scripture!" I am convinced of your work sirs. And when I get the money up, you will see me.